Small docker improvements and fixes (#12335)

* feat: disable uneecessary npm features

disables npm audit, fund and update-notifier for a few second startup speedup

* fix: make default actually defaults not forced values

* feat: upgrade on container changes

* feat: support changing build verb

* fix: use local volumes instead of bind mounts

* fix: save just the hash without any unexpected whitespace

* feat: use run with mount instead of copying for cross-platfomr builds

* ci: try with minimal cache

* ci: don't fetch all branches

* feat: bsic support for other package managers via PACKAGE_MANAGER env var

* refactor: better structured entrypoint

Co-authored-by: NavyStack <137406386+NavyStack@users.noreply.github.com>

* ci: properly cache the node_modules mount

* fix: syntax error

* refactor: fine tune docker-related files

* ci: docker image taging (time, latest)

* fix: remove the trailing slash for correct directory path

* docker: todo- use environment variables to create files

* docker: fix permissions

* docker: fix permissions

* docker: fix stage

* feat: auto-upgrade on package.json changes

* fix: don't profile-gate postgres

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Co-authored-by: NavyStack <137406386+NavyStack@users.noreply.github.com>
Co-authored-by: NavyStack <navystack@askfront.com>

docker-compose-pgsql.yml

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+version: '3.8'
+
+services:
+  nodebb:
+    build: .
+    # image: ghcr.io/nodebb/nodebb:latest
+    restart: unless-stopped
+    ports:
+      - '4567:4567' # comment this out if you don't want to expose NodeBB to the host, or change the first number to any port you want
+    volumes:
+      - nodebb-build:/usr/src/app/build
+      - nodebb-uploads:/usr/src/app/public/uploads
+      - nodebb-config:/opt/config
+      - ./install/docker/setup.json:/usr/src/app/setup.json
+
+  postgres:
+    image: postgres:16.1-alpine
+    restart: unless-stopped
+    environment:
+      POSTGRES_USER: nodebb
+      POSTGRES_PASSWORD: nodebb
+      POSTGRES_DB: nodebb
+    volumes:
+      - postgres-data:/var/lib/postgresql/data
+
+  redis:
+    image: redis:7.2.3-alpine
+    restart: unless-stopped
+    command: ['redis-server', '--appendonly', 'yes', '--loglevel', 'warning']
+    # command: ["redis-server", "--save", "60", "1", "--loglevel", "warning"] # uncomment if you want to use snapshotting instead of AOF
+    volumes:
+      - redis-data:/data
+
+volumes:
+  postgres-data:
+    driver: local
+    driver_opts:
+      o: bind
+      type: none
+      device: ./.docker/database/postgresql/data
+
+  redis-data:
+    driver: local
+    driver_opts:
+      o: bind
+      type: none
+      device: ./.docker/database/redis
+
+  nodebb-build:
+    driver: local
+    driver_opts:
+      o: bind
+      type: none
+      device: ./.docker/build
+
+  nodebb-uploads:
+    driver: local
+    driver_opts:
+      o: bind
+      type: none
+      device: ./.docker/public/uploads
+
+  nodebb-config:
+    driver: local
+    driver_opts:
+      o: bind
+      type: none
+      device: ./.docker/config